5 habits happy people do ( share from yahoo)

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. ---Abraham Lincoln

One of the most fundamental ways you can make over your life isn't to lose 10 pounds or conquer your closet clutter, it's to change your perspective into something more positive. While unhappy people, to paraphrase Tolstoy, might be dysfunctional in 10,000 different ways, upbeat folks have some habits in common. Crib from their notes to bring more joy into any day (yes, even a Monday).


Reach out

Studies show that relationships are vital to a positive outlook in life. And it makes sense --- engaging with others reminds you that no matter how crappy your day or foul your mood, you're not alone. A superficial interaction like chatting with the mail carrier can make you feel like you belong to a community, but intimate relationships are what keeps us going even when times get tough. Send a text to a college friend telling her you're thinking about her, or call your spouse just to say "I love you."
Be thankful

This is worth repeating again and again. Each of us, if you can believe it, has so much to be thankful for. There are the big things, like a loving family and your health, but then there are a million little things, too. When you adjust your perspective to be grateful for all that you have rather than bemoan all you don't, you start living life in the positives, and the results are immediate. Learn how to create a gratitude practice.

Live your passions

Even if you spend 8 hours a day at a job that doesn't exactly have you leaping out of bed in the morning, you can still find ways to do the things that make you feel most alive. In fact, you owe it to yourself for your own happiness and well-being. Whether it's making doll house furniture or roller skating, taking part in activities you love gives your life a sense of meaning and pleasure. Be creative about how you're going to work your passions into your day --- maybe you can form a book club at work or start writing that novel on your lunch hour. Read more about how to make the most of your daily life.

Make do

We live in a culture obsessed with buying stuff, and when we're sad, many of us turn to retail therapy for a quick boost. But that high is short-lived and leads us to spending money we don't have which, doh, only makes us feel worse when the credit card bill arrives. Instead of turning to shopping malls to buy the thing we hope will suddenly make our life happier and complete (never works, does it?), make the most of what you already have. Try "shopping your own closet" (or your man's) and wearing that other 80% of your wardrobe you seldom get to. Or give what you already own some TLC to breathe some new life into it. Maybe your kitchen just needs a good scrub down --- not a new refrigerator --- to feel shiny and new again. Every time you have that impulse to spend, make an effort to make do with what you already have.
Enjoy the simple pleasures

The best things in life, just like the bumper sticker says, often aren't things and they're usually free. Think babies laughing instead of Porsches. Get lost in the way the sun comes through your windows, the vibrant yellow of spring's first daffodils, or a perfect piece of golden toast. Make it a point to bring pleasure into your life and to really savor the delights that are abundant around you already.

Ah CI and her hobby

Ah Ci like her drawing and she can spend long hours concentrete on her craft thing, may it be a bookmark, or small greeting card. One topic she like to write is ' l give mum, l love mum', she has since making a lot of thing for me. When she examine her act work, and she so satisfied with it, and the only person she want to present to is me, her mum. Sometimes when her dad scold her for some mistake, she would start to write something in a piece of paper, and later on she will showing me, ' no love dad ' with symbol and colours. Which I find it quite unique, because she make drawings as her source of expression of emotions.

But recently Ah Ci had been transfer her enthusiasm in craft to her television, she have been addicted to the television day and night, as long as she wake up she would automatically switch on the TV and stick the face onto it for hours. Seeing this may not be a healthy hobbies for a 6 years old child, I would restrict her time for watching, and try my best to distract her attention by sending her some tasks which she would not normally do, like cleaning the floor, tidy the room etc

Chinese saying it take 3 days to learn the bad habib and it take 3 years to learn a good one. My lesson is to try to avoid those bad hobby because it hard to get rid of once addicted.

Photography

Recently I have been in the madness of getting a new camera within my little budget, I have search tons of websites, from the auction site to those of review site to choose my ideal camera, in the process of the searching and survey, I manage to come up with my so called conclusion and two-cents opinions in the photography world.

Many photography fans would choose a DSLR (A digital single-lens reflex camera is a digital camera that uses a mechanical mirror system and pentaprism to direct light from the lens to an optical viewfinder on the back of the camera.) DSLR camera is different from that of the normal camera in the sense that we can use different lens to the DSLR in order to shot variation of scene, which produces special effect to the images/result.

When we said PRO in photography it means that professional shooting, e.g., shoot a sunset mode to a very high quality perfect picture which others normal camera couldn’t. Basically, when you are a pro meaning that you can shoot a good picture with your DSLR.

There are two types of most common and complete range of lens provider, which is Canon and Nikon. They are leading the market in terms of variety and quality. That also means if you want a DSLR it would be better to get these two brand as to the wide range of lens for choice in order for different photography needs.

As of me, the price of certain lens, telephoto, fisheye view, macro lens, is flying high without the reach of my budget, so what is the point of getting a DSLR if end up at the end we cannot purchase a lens to suit the needs?

In view of this, I have determine to change my target from a DSLR to a semi-pro camera, semi pro means that you can still do some of the pro-thing, without need to actually purchase a pro-camera. The alternative is purchase a more high-end digital camera, e.g., a Canon Ixus which can produces certain images equivalent to those of the fisheye, wide angle lens, and also standard focus point 18-55mm which in turn able to do some very satisfying image.

Green green Cameron Highland

We depart from Kuala Lumpur and take about 3 hours in good traffic, to reach the Tanah Rata, which is a small town since the British government, it had been a small town and centre for necesity since long long times ago.

there are now starbuck cafe in Tanah Rata, it symbolise that the globalisation is finally eating up the rural hill site without mercy.

Then we head to the Brinchang, it is further 40 minutes drive from the Tanah Rata.And here it is , the big strawberry farm, here you can find a variety of vegetable, cactus, fruits, flowers etc

 and many products from local fruits eg. dried strawberry etc

A  budget hotel which i would give a thumb up for its price and services and the cleanliness,but the king size bed is too hard for my weigh!

Steamboat is a must when you are at the highland

A tea plantation is a must visit during the stay in the highland - taste a cup of Boh tea and you will have the old British feel all over again.A historic church which became a hospital during WWII and now a school, its also rumour to be haunted with the WWII ghosts.Believe it or not?!Go find out for yourself it is just around the Tanah Rata area on a hilltop.

My best western food --you won't believe!

 Swiss Meat ball with fries/Chips

Tuna fish with Brocolis in special sauces

Fish & Chips

You won't believe me, these are my favourite western dishes. The reason for liking - simple, fresh and easy, no much unnecesary dressing, no extra sauces, easy to eat and full.

And don;t laugh if you have guess right - its from the familiar Ikea Restaurant.

相思豆

相思豆树

未成熟的相思豆，长在树杆上

相思(王维)：

红豆生南国，

春来发几枝？

愿君多采撷，

此物最相思。

that day when my parent going to board the flight back to howntown the next day, I think we would send them have a visit to my aunt's house at puchong, there at the middle of the garden & playground stood this red bean tree, which i promise for long would took my daughter for picking the red bean ever since she read the 'tang shi' and questioning me about how's it look.

Well it took more than five people ( my aunt, uncle,my parent, me and hubby) to pick for a 10 minutes or so, and we have just a bottom small bottle of the bean....it is fun though for a 6 years old.

It remind me that our school used to have quite a lot of this bean back in the 90s. I am not sure whether the tree remain there or not until these days. Its kind of good childhood memory to pick this bean along the mountain.

Copy from other blogger, have to share with friends

人之所以痛苦， 在于追求错误的东西。

如果你不给自己烦恼， 别人也永远不能给你烦恼。 因为你自己的内心， 放不下。

好好管教你自己， 不要管别人。

你随时要认命， 因为你是人。

这个世界本来就是痛苦的， 没有例外的。

你什么时候放下， 什么时候就没有烦恼。

每一种创伤， 都是一种成熟。

当你烦恼的时候，就要告诉自己：这一切都是假的， 你烦恼什么？？

根本不用回头去看咒骂你的人是谁。 如果有条狗咬你一口， 难道你也要趴下去咬它一口吗？

妒忌别人，不会给自己增加任何好处。

妒忌别人， 也不可能减少别人的成就。

永远不要浪费你的一分一秒去想任何你不喜欢的人。

得不到的东西， 我们会一直以为它是美好的， 那时因为你对他的了解太少了， 没有时间与他相处在一起。 当有一天， 你深入了解后， 你会发现原来不是你想像中那么美好的。

这个世界只有圆滑， 没有圆满。

不要刻意去猜测他人的想法， 如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断， 通常都会有错误的。

你要感谢告诉你缺点的人。

时间总会过去的， 让时间流走你的烦恼吧！

不要因为小小的 争执， 远离了你的至亲好友， 也不要因为小小的怨恨， 忘记了别人的大恩。

感谢上苍我所拥有的， 感谢上苍我所没有的。

当你手中抓住一件东西不放时， 你只能拥有这件东西。 如果你肯放手， 你就有机会选择别的。

人的心若死执自己的观念， 不肯放下， 那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已。

如果你能够平平安安的度过一天， 那就是一种福气了。

有多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，

有多少人在今天已经成了残废，

有多少人在今天已经失去了自由，

有多少人在今天已经家破人亡。

恶口永远不要出自于我们口中，不管他有多坏， 有多恶。你越骂他， 你的心就被污染。 你要想，他就是你的善知识。

你不要常常觉得自己很委屈， 应该要想像， 他对我这样已经很好了， 这就是修行的功夫。

世界本来就不是属於你， 因此你用不着抛弃， 要抛弃的是一切的执着， 万物皆为我所有，但非我所属。

学会用理解的， 欣赏的眼光去看对方， 而不是用自以为是的关心来管对方。

成熟的人不问过去，

聪明的人不问现在，

豁达的人不问未来。

发光并非太阳的专利， 你也可以发光。

你可以用爱得到全世界， 你也可以用恨失去全世界。

爱的力量大到可以使人忘记一切， 却又小到连一粒妒忌的沙石也不能容纳。

人总是珍惜未得到的， 而遗忘了所拥有的。

如果你想要拥有完美无暇的友谊， 可能一辈子找不着朋友。

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